It was fun and crazy, but most of the times I felt alive, like I could see colors brighter, words clearer – my children full of life. Perhaps it’s my hormones. I don’t know, but I’m happy to enjoy it for a bit.

I laughed, I yelled, and I whispered to my girls. I watched them sleep in the dim light of my Navy lodge room, partially awake from fear that I’d wake up in the morning with brown sheets instead of white because an ant colony moved into our beds.

Military lodging facilities leave something to be desired, and southern climate lots of bugs crawling around.

But we overcame the insects situation and our days were full.

We fought and told each other that we were mean.
We watched Nina take her first steps. We watched Livia being terrified of the water despite the fact that she was wearing a life-vest and floaty. We watched Anna trying to get her level six dismount on the uneven bars. Not yet baby! We saw Luisa and Eva learning trapezes’ skills.

Sometimes I seem to wait for the next thing to come around, bigger paper, more articles, more money.

But I think that this is the next thing, the best time of my life, best because it’s happening right now, with permanently stained shirts, trying to lose 3 pounds – yes, you got that right, 3 stubborn and ridiculous pounds – with my husband deployed and my family living in Italy.

Just life at 102 degrees in our old minivan which always seems to have so many crumbs inside no matter how often I try to clean.

Me and the girls living life the way it comes, one fight, hug and laughter at a time.

I agree that all children should be honored, but before I dive into why I think it’s not unfair to dedicate April to military children, let me explain that each month of the year has many dedications and causes associated with it.

It’s a competitive dedication world out there and causes fiercely fight for the spotlight.

For example, April isn’t simply the month of the military child, it’s also Straw Hat Awareness Month, Stress Awareness Month, Rosacea Awareness Month, National Poetry Month, National Pecan Month, National Kite Month, Irritable Bowel Syndrome (IBS) Month, Autism Awareness Month, Fresh Florida Tomatoes Month, Cesarean Awareness Month and dozens more.

That’s right, military children share the spotlight with Tomatoes, IBS, Pecans, Straw Hats and Kites.
Military children deserve their share of this crowded spotlight for the sacrifices the country asks of them. Being a military spouse isn’t easy, but being a military child is even more challenging because children are born into this lifestyle and have to trot along without much complaining.

They are forced to deal with moves, leaving friends behind, deployments, changes of plans at the last minute, and parents who aren’t there for birthdays, illness, school triumphs, sport’s events and family vacations.

There are many great things about growing up in the extended military family, but this lifestyle is hard on children.

I have written about my own young daughters’ challenges with deployments. My children have asked me if we could move the war to the backyard so daddy could come home at night and my two year old has asked if she could travel with him and take her ponies to the war, adding that she would like to have a Dora potty there.

Older kids don’t have a hard time understanding separation and time, they have their own struggles. A good friend of mine, another military spouse has older children and told me that they also struggled quite a bit.

Her daughter Maggie said that, “The hardest part about being a military brat is moving a lot. Every time you move, you have to practically start over with friends and school.” Her brother Robbie, high school sophomore and varsity athlete says that he misses his dad the most, “At my sporting events and family dinners. He calls a lot to hear about my running times for cross country and track, but it’s not the same as having him there or talking about it at the supper table.”

No matter their age, military children have to learn to be resilient and self-sufficient and to go with the flow. Honoring their resilience doesn’t seem so unfair.

It’s not like April means they get money or paid vacations or better yet, mom and dad back from the war. It’s a good opportunity to remember that little ones also make sacrifices and work hard.

And if you are still not convinced, you can focus on a new cause or create a new one to honor.

Keep in mind, Straw Hats and Fresh Tomatoes are already taken.