Comments on: Deployment fun http://www.ovolina.com/lang/en/deployment-fun news and life with an Italian twist Wed, 02 Jun 2010 17:28:57 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Kristi http://www.ovolina.com/lang/en/deployment-fun/comment-page-1/#comment-1612 Kristi Mon, 01 Jun 2009 04:32:05 +0000 http://www.ovolina.com/?p=560#comment-1612 That "you signed up for this" arguement is the most heartless! Does anyone tell a laboring woman to quit moaning because after all, she knew what she was getting into? A milspouse has got to vent a little now and then! To everything there is a season!Deployment is the traditional time for it. Mostly, we want validation. Our husbands take it as blame, and typically try to solve it or reason it away. We just look around and say, "Am I crazy, or does this not totally suck and feel like crap?" A good fellow milspouse should tell you, "Hell ya it sucks! You're right, and I feel for ya, and I've felt it too, and let me know if I can help." Seriously, my husband left on a carrier two days ago. I'm right there with ya, let me know if a blog-friend can help! That “you signed up for this” arguement is the most heartless! Does anyone tell a laboring woman to quit moaning because after all, she knew what she was getting into? A milspouse has got to vent a little now and then! To everything there is a season!Deployment is the traditional time for it.

Mostly, we want validation. Our husbands take it as blame, and typically try to solve it or reason it away. We just look around and say, “Am I crazy, or does this not totally suck and feel like crap?” A good fellow milspouse should tell you, “Hell ya it sucks! You’re right, and I feel for ya, and I’ve felt it too, and let me know if I can help.”

Seriously, my husband left on a carrier two days ago. I’m right there with ya, let me know if a blog-friend can help!

]]> By: bethany actually http://www.ovolina.com/lang/en/deployment-fun/comment-page-1/#comment-1595 bethany actually Wed, 27 May 2009 10:42:26 +0000 http://www.ovolina.com/?p=560#comment-1595 My Navy-officer husband is in the middle of a month-long work-up right now. He'll be home for a few weeks and then will leave for a six-month in mid-July. We've been surprised by a few deployments and early moves in the 13 years we've been married, and it's never fun. I'm not dreading this deployment, exactly, but I'm more apprehensive about it than I've ever been about a deployment because it's the first one when our daughter is old enough to know what's going on. I'm sorry you guys are under this stress. If it helps, I do know what you're going through! My Navy-officer husband is in the middle of a month-long work-up right now. He’ll be home for a few weeks and then will leave for a six-month in mid-July. We’ve been surprised by a few deployments and early moves in the 13 years we’ve been married, and it’s never fun. I’m not dreading this deployment, exactly, but I’m more apprehensive about it than I’ve ever been about a deployment because it’s the first one when our daughter is old enough to know what’s going on.

I’m sorry you guys are under this stress. If it helps, I do know what you’re going through!

]]> By: Amanda http://www.ovolina.com/lang/en/deployment-fun/comment-page-1/#comment-1591 Amanda Sun, 24 May 2009 10:07:08 +0000 http://www.ovolina.com/?p=560#comment-1591 Uncle Sam is a terrible mistress. When my husband deployed he had already been TDY all summer. They sent him home from that assignment early and said "Spend the next 3 weeks with your family." Yeah right. We got about a week and a half before he left for 12-15 months. You know how we spent most of that week and a half? Fighting. And you know what? I get so irritated with people who say "You signed up for this." No, *I* didn't. I just happen to love a man who does. My husband left active duty once because he was deployed ALL the time back in the 1990's. He couldn't keep a girlfriend long enough to see if it would get serious. He wanted a family. So he got out. We met right as he was ending his active duty time. I saw him that year he was completely away from the military. He was miserable. Then he thought joining the National Guard would be a compromise - WRONG. And here we are active duty again. How can you tell the man you love to be miserable and give up the job he loves doing? I couldn't. That's why we wives have a constant countdown calendar to retirement in our heads. We can tell you exactly when their 20 years is up. Uncle Sam is a terrible mistress. When my husband deployed he had already been TDY all summer. They sent him home from that assignment early and said “Spend the next 3 weeks with your family.” Yeah right. We got about a week and a half before he left for 12-15 months. You know how we spent most of that week and a half? Fighting.

And you know what? I get so irritated with people who say “You signed up for this.” No, *I* didn’t. I just happen to love a man who does. My husband left active duty once because he was deployed ALL the time back in the 1990’s. He couldn’t keep a girlfriend long enough to see if it would get serious. He wanted a family. So he got out. We met right as he was ending his active duty time. I saw him that year he was completely away from the military. He was miserable. Then he thought joining the National Guard would be a compromise – WRONG. And here we are active duty again. How can you tell the man you love to be miserable and give up the job he loves doing? I couldn’t. That’s why we wives have a constant countdown calendar to retirement in our heads. We can tell you exactly when their 20 years is up.

]]> By: cali http://www.ovolina.com/lang/en/deployment-fun/comment-page-1/#comment-1589 cali Thu, 21 May 2009 20:08:53 +0000 http://www.ovolina.com/?p=560#comment-1589 wow, this kind of stuff is never easy. it seems cliche to say to you to be strong, instead i say, i'm here if you need to vent more. i hope things start to look up for you! wow, this kind of stuff is never easy. it seems cliche to say to you to be strong, instead i say, i’m here if you need to vent more. i hope things start to look up for you!

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